"I'm Considering Adoption For My Baby": Frequently Asked Questions
If you're considering adoption for your baby, you're bound to have lots of questions. Don't worry, we’re here to answer them! We are advocates for birth moms, and our goal is to provide you with support—throughout your adoption process, but also in the future after the adoption is completed. Below, we've gathered some common questions that birth moms often ask, and we’ve answered them for you. If you have additional questions, you can find answers on our blog or reach out to an Adoption Specialist! Remember, we are here to help, so even if you decide that adoption is not the right choice for you, think of us as a friendly and caring resource that you can rely upon.
What is the step-by-step adoption process?
This is a question that every birth mom wonders about. Understanding the adoption process can seem confusing at first, but we will be here to answer all of your questions. Here is a brief overview of the adoption process:
- You meet with one of our staff members, an Adoption Specialist, to better understand adoption and the type of adoption you want.
- If you want, you can actually pick the family that will adopt your baby. If you prefer not to make that choice, we will pick an appropriate family for you.
- With the support of your Adoption Specialist, you make a plan for your time at the hospital—including, for example, how much time you may want to spend with the adoptive family and the baby.
- You have your baby! If you would like us to, we will be there with you every step of the way to provide care and support, even in the delivery room.
- Two days after giving birth, you can sign the necessary paperwork to legalize the adoption.
- After the adoption, please stay in contact. We will continue to be there for you, providing you with emotional support for as long as you need.
For a more detailed explanation of how the adoption process works, you can read our blog “How to Put a Baby Up for Adoption” or contact an Adoption Specialist who can answer any questions that you may have.
What if I’ve already had my baby? Can I still choose adoption?
Yes! If you deliver your baby and then decide—while still in the hospital, or even later on—that parenting is not the right option for you, we can help you place your baby with a loving family up until she (or he) is 2 years old. This can be a difficult transition. But we are here to support you, and to provide any assistance and guidance you may need.
What kind of contact do I have with the adoptive family later on?
During the adoption process, you will decide upon an adoption plan that you feel is right for you and your baby. You are in charge. There are three basic types of plans: an open adoption, a semi-open adoption, and a closed adoption. Each of which specifies the kind of contact you would like to have with the adoptive family and the baby throughout the adoption process as well as in the future. Again, the decision is completely up to you. Whatever you feel most comfortable with. The plan you choose will continue after the adoption is finalized. For a more detailed blog on the different types of adoption, our blog “I want give my baby up for adoption,” will tell you everything you need to know!
How does relinquishment work?
Forty eight hours after giving birth, you can officially sign paperwork to place the child for adoption. Your Adoption Specialist will be with you every step of the way to answer any questions and to provide support. You may also want family or friends to be in the room with you. Or you may prefer to be alone. You can decide what you are comfortable with.
Am I a bad mom for placing my baby for adoption?
Absolutely not! Adoption is an act of courage and shows that you care about the well-being and future of your baby. Placing your baby with a caring family that can provide for all her (or his) needs is a loving choice on your part. It makes you a great mom, not a bad one.