Help! Can I place twins for adoption?
Are you pregnant with twins and considering adoption?
If so, you likely have many questions about placing twins for adoption. For instance, you might be wondering what the adoption process is for twins and whether or not they will be separated.
This article will answer all your questions about placing twins for adoption!
What You Should Know About Placing Twins for Adoption
Is the Adoption Process Different for Twins Than for One Child?
The adoption process for twins is actually not that much different than placing one child for adoption.
Whether you are giving birth to two children or one, you will do the following steps in order to place them for adoption:
- Find an adoption agency. The adoption agency will provide you with guidance and support every step of the way. They will answer all your questions about the adoption process and help you make the best decisions for you and your babies.
- Choose the type of adoption that works best for you. The three types of adoption are open adoption, semi-open adoption, and closed adoption. Each adoption type is completely customizable. You are in control of the path you choose. Here are the three adoption types:
- In an open adoption, you choose the family who adopts your babies and you can even get to know the family before the adoption. You can also keep in touch with the family once the adoption is over.
- Semi-open adoptions are similar to open adoptions because you can choose the adoptive family and get to know the family. However, once the adoption is completed, you do not have personal contact with the family, though you may receive photos and letters.
- Lastly, in a closed adoption, the adoption agency chooses the family who adopts your babies. You do not meet the family, nor do you have contact with them after the adoption is completed.
Will the Twins be Separated?
There have been many stories circulating online about twins separated at birth, reuniting as adults. So if you plan to place both of your twins for adoption, you’ve probably wondered if they can be placed with the same family.
It’s important to know that placing twins with separate families is very rare for modern adoptions. In fact, if you tell your adoption agency that you want your children placed with the same family, the adoption agency will not split up the twins. Even in a closed adoption where birth mothers do not choose the family who adopts her babies, the agency will always try to place the twins together.
The adoption agency will look for families who have the ability and the desire to become a parent to two children. In the end, though, you get to choose which family adopts your babies.
Can I Keep One Twin and Place the Other for Adoption?
Many women want to become a mother but are only able to care for one child. Perhaps these women cannot afford two babies at once. Or maybe the stress of caring for two children is too much much to handle.
These women often wonder if they can keep one child and place the other for adoption. There are some important things to consider first.
For one, studies show that twins have a strong psychological connection. Twins often have a special bond that allows them to understand each other in ways no one else can. It’s almost like having a best friend that you can always rely on, through all the joys and challenges in life.
Separating twins means breaking that special bond.
Moreover, the adopted twin could grow up feeling unwanted, depressed, and confused. After all, the child was placed for adoption while the birthparent decided to raise the other twin. The adopted twin may grow up feeling like s/he was “the twin that wasn’t loved enough,” even if that isn’t the case. After all, you only want what is best for your babies, but the adopted child may not understand the decision, even when s/he grows up.
So what should you do?
Only you can make the decision of what happens to your twins. However, it’s important to think about the consequences of separating them. You may want to consider placing both children for adoption or choose to parent both children yourself. If you feel that you would need help parenting both children, considering getting help from family, friends, or hiring a nanny.
Talk to a Professional
If you are not sure whether you are ready to parent both children and you are considering adoption for one or both of them, talk to your doctor. It may be helpful to get some professional advice about parenting and adoption.
Moreover, Texas Adoption Center is available to help you make a decision that is right for you. If you have any questions about the adoption process, finding the right family for your baby/babies, or would like advice about how to proceed, give Texas Adoption Center a call at 512-893-7943 or fill out a contact form.
If you have chosen adoption, Texas Adoption Center will guide you through the adoption process. They are a down-to-earth, professional adoption agency whose goal is to empower you to make good choices. Adoption is a courageous decision, and you should feel empowered to look toward the future with confidence.
Contact the agency today for more information!