You get to choose the type of adoption plan you’re most comfortable with.
This is a common choice for many women. The adoption is “open” because you pick the family, you know who they are, and you decide what kind of relationship you want to have with them. You are free to start building this relationship before delivery. Depending on how your connection progresses, you may want to exchange direct contact information with the family, such as phone numbers and email addresses. After delivery, you may want to spend time with the family and the baby at the hospital—depending on how you feel and what you think is best. Then, you may want to keep up with the family through direct contact (phone calls, texts), and you might even visit with them down the road. But you may choose not to do these things, or simply to do them in your own way. You are in control. You decide. All adoption plans are unique—and yours will be too.
This is another common option. You pick the family, and you may—if you want—decide to meet them and build a relationship before delivery. After delivery, you have the option of spending time with the baby while you’re at the hospital — again, this is entirely your choice — and in the months and years ahead, you may (if you want) receive pictures and letter updates, but there will be no personal visits or contact. That is why this kind of adoption is called “semi-open.” Your connection to the family will be “open” before the adoption, but not after.
This kind of adoption is less common nowadays. If you want the adoption to be “closed,” you will usually ask us to pick a family for you. After the family is chosen, you typically won’t meet or have a relationship with them, you won’t have any visits once the baby is born, and you won’t receive any pictures or updates later on. Even with a “closed” adoption, however, you can still choose just how “closed” you want the process to be. As we keep saying, every adoption plan is unique. It reflects what you want.