You choose the adoption path that is most comfortable for you.
If you want the adoption to be “closed,” you will usually ask us to pick a family for you. After the family is chosen, you typically won’t meet or have a relationship with them, and you won’t receive any pictures or updates later on. Even with a “closed” adoption, however, you can still choose just how “closed” you want the process to be. Every adoption plan is unique. It reflects what you want.
You pick the family, and you may (if you want) receive pictures and letter updates, but there will be no personal visits or contact. That is why this kind of adoption is called “semi-open.”
The adoption is “open” because you pick the family, you know who they are, and you decide what kind of relationship you want to have with them. After baby is placed with the family, you may want to keep up with the family through direct contact (phone calls, texts), and you might even visit with them down the road. But you may choose not to do these things, or simply to do them in your own way. You are in control. You decide. All adoption plans are unique — and yours will be too.