Placing your baby for adoption is never an easy choice. As you may be experiencing, it seems as though there are an endless amount of factors to consider. In order to make an informed choice, it is important to look at all of the positives and negatives. This is especially true when weighing the pros and cons of putting a baby up for adoption.
In order to make the best decision for you and your baby, it is important to gather all the information that you possibly can, consider the pros and cons of either choice, and spend time in thought. To help along in this process, today, we’ll take a look at the pros and cons of adoption.
Pros of Putting a Baby Up for Adoption
1. You get control over the entire adoption plan
During the whole adoption process, you are in the driver’s seat. An Adoption Specialist will help you to create an adoption plan that is best for you and your baby. Your wants, needs, and requests will be at the forefront of any decision that is made. After the plan is created, you will be matched with a family that is comfortable with the same plan! Which brings us to our next point…
2. You get to choose the adoptive parents (or not!)
We know how important it is for you to feel confident in knowing that the adoptive family wants the same things for your baby that you do. Because of this, we encourage and empower birth mothers to hand select a family of their choosing. We will supply you with endless pictures, stories, and information so that you can make the best choice.
And if you would rather not choose the family? We will listen to all of your wants and requests to find the perfect fit for you. Regardless, you will feel comfortable knowing that your baby is going to a loving home and will be adored forever.
3. You can meet the adoptive family (or not!)
If you choose to hand-select the adoptive family, you can also decide on what kind of relationship you would like to have with them. You can even begin building this relationship before delivery! Many expectant mothers choose to exchange phone or email information. Some moms even choose to meet the adoptive family in person!
You may also choose not to have a relationship with the adoptive family. Either way, you can know that you are making the best choice for you and your baby.
4. You have control over future contact
After delivery, you get to choose if you would like to remain in contact with the family through scheduling visits, receiving updates through letters or email, or maintaining little to no contact. These different communication levels are generally seen in three different groups: an open adoption, a semi-open adoption, or a closed adoption.
There is no right answer for everyone, it’s just what works best for you. Each adoption plan is unique in its own way. If you would like to read more about these adoption styles and see which one is best for you, click here.
5. You will know that your child is loved and supported
As a birth mom, you are placing your baby for adoption to give them the best life possible. Giving an adoptive family the chance to fulfill their dreams of parenthood is the purest act of love. In exchange, the adoptive family will pour all the love that they have into raising your baby. If you choose an open adoption, you will get to witness this first hand through visits, pictures, or letters.
Cons of Putting a Baby Up for Adoption
1. Experiencing, at times, overwhelming emotions
It’s completely natural to feel overwhelmed and stressed when facing an unplanned pregnancy. At this point, things may feel a bit out of your control. But, as you team up with an Adoption Specialist from Texas Adoption Center, you will soon feel encouraged and in control. The feelings of helplessness that you may feel right now will soon turn into empowerment and purpose.
Throughout the rest of your pregnancy and even after delivery, you may feel overswept with emotion. This, too, is natural. Luckily, our loving Adoption Specialists work around the clock to listen to and support you. We will continue to provide support as long as you need us to.
2. You aren’t raising the baby, but isn’t that the whole point?
It is true that placing your baby for adoption means that you won’t be raising them. However, you are looking to provide the best life for your child, and sometimes that means finding adoptive parents with a loving home.
Of course, you will still experience grief from time to time. This is completely normal and expected. However, many birth moms find peace and comfort in knowing that they have done what is best for them and their child.
When a birth momma was shown a few pictures of her baby after the adoption, she responded, “I find myself just looking at his face. He looks peaceful and happy. I’m thankful he has such a loving family to call his own.”
Reach Out to Texas Adoption Center
Reaching out to a caring, local adoption center is the first step in finding out which option is best for you and your baby. There are plenty of pros and cons of putting a baby up for adoption, but the loving, judgment-free Adoption Specialists at Texas Adoption Center can empower you and care for you every step of the way.
To speak to Texas Adoption Center, contact us online or call (512) 893-7943. We are happy to take your call any time of day.